Continuing with the Exploring Emotions series, rather than focus on a specific emotion, I would like to share my thoughts and feelings about the symposium I attended. This is my second year attending the Zarrow Symposium. Keep in mind, each person views the world through ones own lens and this is my view.
Category Archives: Equality
Domestic Violence in LGBTQ Relationships
Leave a comment StandardSpecial thanks to my friend Catherine McConnell who wrote this article. With over 10 years experience, she specializes in treating severe trauma and emotional and psychological issues affecting residents of the Arlington, Texas area.
Domestic Violence is a well-known topic that affects all kinds of relationships. What is not well known, however, is just how often this happens in non-heterosexual populations. We do know that this is the third most serious health problem affecting gay men today behind HIV/AIDS and substance abuse. The reason this is a worrisome statement is that we know that this issue is severely underreported. There are a lot of reasons for this: Research is primarily focused on normative heterosexual relationships and funding is sparse for the study of “special populations.” In many areas there can be an anti-LGBTQ bias- several states do not protect homosexual partners under their domestic laws, and even then they only protect live in partners; Domestic Violence shelters are usually geared towards females; which can limit access for transgender populations; And perhaps most damning of all: Those in LGBTQ populations often do not want to report because they do not want to impact the progress made towards acceptance of these relationships.
For the sake of simplicity I’m going to assume that most are familiar with the broad categories of domestic violence: physical violence (putting hands on another person in any form), emotional abuse (name-calling, dismantling self esteem, isolating a partner from social support), and sexual abuse (coerced sexual contact or unwanted sexual contact of any kind). However, there are some forms of domestic abuse that are very specific to LGBTQ relationships:
- “Outing” or threatening to out a partner who is not ready to admit their sexual orientation to others
- Playing on fears that nobody will help because the person is bisexual, gay, or transgender
- Defining for your partner that they “deserve” the abuse because of their sexual orientation
- Justifying the abuse because your partner is “not really” gay or bisexual
- Telling the partner that this is a normal part of a LGBTQ relationship
- Making the abuse appear as mutual or consensual (this does not include truly consensual S&M relationships)
- Using offensive pronouns such as “shim” or “it” to refer to a transgender partner
- Ridiculing a transgender partner’s appearance or body, or implying that a partner is “not really” transgender
- Telling your partner that he/she is “not really” a man/woman
- Denying access to medical treatment or hormones
It can be embarrassing for anyone to admit that they are being abused, but in a world where these relationships still have a stigma about them it can be almost impossible to muster the courage to report these kind of difficulties.
There are several reasons that the LGBTQ population is at higher risk for these problems. There is such a stigma in this population already that it can be difficult to report something that may create more. This is referred to as the “double closet”- having to hide both and LGBTQ orientation and domestic violence. There are similar barriers to reporting in heterosexual relationships as well: low self esteem, not being taken seriously by authorities, isolation from family, and lack of support from others who would rather not get involved.
It’s important that this problem is acknowledged, and treated, in every community. Regardless of your sexual orientation, you do not deserve to be abused. The mental health community is working every day to educate ourselves and to be allies for all kinds of relationships. If you think that you are being abused please do not hesitate to reach out.
Learn more about Catherine McConnell by visiting her website: http://catherinemcounseling.com/
Civil and Medical Models of Disability
Leave a comment StandardCultures around the world each have their own ideas of what it means to be normal. Deviations from the norm are often seen as inherently wrong or bad in some way. Mental disorders in America are categorized and labeled in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders 5th Edition and definitions are carefully worded to maintain political correctness. Oftentimes people, or others close to them, adopt their diagnosis as their primary identifier. Concurrently, physical disabilities can become primary labels by people around them. Self-identifying as different based on a disability can be beneficial or problematic depending on the individual and the situation. Research has shown increased poverty rates in people with mental and/or physical disabilities (Weber, 2010). Social reforms have attempted to rectify the inconsistencies with varying success rates. While it is illegal to discriminate based on a laundry list of items, unofficial discrimination does occur within the confines of the law (Weber, 2010). The semantics should be explicated before comparing and contrasting the civil rights and medical models of disability.
The following terms were not even concepts “until 19th century scientific thinking put variations in human function and form into categories of abnormality and deviance” (Wasserman, Asch, Bluestein, & Putnam, 2013). A disability is defined as a “limitation in the ability to pursue an occupation because of physical or mental impairment” (Disability, 2013). While disability is the accepted vernacular for individuals with physical or mental diversity, there is a negative connotation when the word is broken down to its roots. Impaired is defined as “being less than perfect or whole condition” either with alcohol or being “defective” (Impaired, 2013). One of the definitions of defective is “falling below the norm in structure or in mental or physical function” (Defective, 2013). Defective itself is a word often connected with a derogatory context. Despite the negative roots of the word, most people prefer ‘disabled’ over the previously popular and now derogatory term, ‘handicap’. Society would have to constantly develop new words with similar meanings to keep up with not offending people.
Medical Model of Disability
The medical model of disability assumes that a condition of the body or mind is physical and can be treated through medicinal means (The Open University, 2006). The medical model is sometimes referred to as the individual model, because it assumes the individual afflicted with the disability must correct it (Barnes & Mercer, 1997). Techniques used to rehabilitate physical and mental disabilities vary in intensity and administration. People that are not disabled do not often consider the accommodations that would allow people with disabilities to prosper. Additionally, many non-disabled persons do not think about things that are frequently taken for granted, such as walking, seeing, or hearing. The medical model supports the use of medications and medical facilities to treat and/or cure disabilities (The Open University, 2006). The advantages of the medical model are that new medicines are constantly being developed to help people overcome mental or physical ailments. However, the consideration that is not always taken into account is that some people may prefer to be different. For example, someone that has dyslexia might not want to take the strenuous measures to correct it, but instead use alternative methods of learning, such as audio, video, or actively doing something. Another person with dyslexia may envy readers and want to devote hours to learning how to control their reading abilities in order to read their favorite novels. Every person’s experience with a disability is going to be different. If I were in a car accident tomorrow and could never walk again, my chosen form of rehabilitation would be different than another person in the exact same scenario. A disadvantage of the medical model is that it may not take into consideration whether or not a person wants to be rehabilitated, as with the dyslexia example. Similar to the above scenario, a person unable to walk, but that has to potential to walk might enjoy a life in a wheelchair and not want physical therapy that would restore their legs. As an autonomous society, we assume independence is the key goal for everyone in our society. This might lead to forcing disabled people to utilize services they do not necessarily need to survive. Another disadvantage is that the medical model expects each individual with a disability to make their own accommodations and learn to live in a pre-established non-disabled society.
Civil Rights Model of Disability
The civil rights model of disability “looks to anti-discrimination law to remove socially imposed limits on opportunity” (Weber, 2010). The civil rights model is distinguished from the social model of disability because the social model postulates that it is society that creates the disability by blocking people from opportunities and the society must change (Barnes & Mercer, 1997). The civil rights model is similar, however proposes that society must change through legal intervention because of everyone’s right to equal opportunity. Civil rights are rights are often associated with the 14th amendment that “expanded the protection of civil rights to all Americans” and required states to comply (Library of Congress, 2012). Written in 1868, disabled persons were not considered in the implementation of civil rights (Library of Congress, 2012). Therefore, several pieces of legislation since then have been created to remedy the inconsistencies. For example, places with stairs used to be prevalent around America and prevented physically impaired individuals from accessing their facilities. Now, because of the Americans with Disabilities Act, there are ramps on all sidewalks and up to buildings (ADA, 2009). Establishments are also required to reserve closer parking for the disabled and make the necessary accommodations for wheelchairs and walkers (ADA, 2009). The American with Disabilities Act (ADA) “adopts a civil rights approach” and what is does is “legally compel employers, government, and merchants to accommodate people with disabilities” (Weber, 2010). The ADA was supposed to afford the same rights and opportunities to disabled people that everyone else has. In some respects it has been successful, such as wheelchair ramps. However, some argue it has been unsuccessful in getting all people with disabilities out of poverty (Weber, 2010). The World Health Organization reports that approximately “six hundred and fifty million people live with disabilities of various types” and the majority of them are in low-income countries (WHO, 2013). The World Health Organization is attempting to expand the rights that Americans have to other countries around the world. An advantage of the civil rights model of disability is that it advocates for the rights of people with disabilities and is determined to uphold “the civil rights of persons [by] removing attitudinal and environmental barriers and their effects, by legal force if necessary” (Weber, 2010). A disadvantage of the civil rights model is that despite how much legislation is passed, people with disabilities are still not considered equals in society (Weber, 2010).
Comparisons & Contrasts
There are some similarities between the two models. Both the medical and civil rights models have intentions of helping people in the community. Equality and perseverance in a non-disabled society are common to each of the models. While they both have advantages and disadvantages, a combination of the benefits of each would be the most efficient application. One of society’s attempts to bridge the gap between disabled and non-disabled people is by decreasing poverty rates. Programs attempting to provide income for people with disabilities include Supplemental Security Income, Social Security Disability Insurance Program, Home and Community Based Services, and Community Integrated Living Arrangements (Weber, 2010). These are just a few examples of government and state agendas. There are also disability specific programs and another assistance category for grants and services under the Rehabilitation Act, which is federally funded and provides educational and welfare programs (Weber, 2010). Poverty is computed by determining “if [the] total family income is less than the threshold appropriate for that family,” and appropriate thresholds are determined by society (U.S. Census Bureau, 2012). In 2011, the poverty rate in America was 15%, meaning 46.2 million people were in ‘poverty’ (U.S. Census Bureau, 2012).
The major difference between the medical and civil rights models of disability is that the medical model views the disabled person as the problem, and the civil rights model is closer to the social model in that it views society as the problem (The Open University, 2006). While the civil rights model does not expect to society to just change on their own, it argues that legislation will be the tool to guide equality for everyone (Weber, 2010). The medical model on the other hand argues that it should be the responsibility of the individual with the disability to take advantage of the resources available to them and utilize them effectively. The problem with these two different perspectives is that they each make assumptions that cannot be guaranteed. The major assumptions with the medical model are that people want the services, that there is something inherently wrong with disabled people, and that individuals are capable of finding resources that are available to assist them. The main assumptions with the civil rights model is that society is the cultivator of disadvantages to people with disabilities, that legislation will magically fix all of the problems, and that all disable people can be lumped in the category of broken and needing to be helped.
There are societal implications of each model discussed in this paper. The medical model of disability paints the picture that several members of our society are defective and require repair. While the intentions are good, the methods of assistance are stigmatized with handouts and negative implications (Weber, 2010). The natural inference made from the civil rights model is that our society is uncaring, discriminatory, and must be made to comply with accommodations through legal means. Neither of the aforementioned implications are necessarily true or untrue. With the combination of the two models, less easily offended advocates for the rights of people with disabilities, and education nationwide would decrease stigmas attached to poverty, disabilities, and models of disability. Financially and morally it seems logical that accommodations and rehabilitative services should be available to persons with disabilities but not mandatory. To completely exclude an entire group of people because of physical or mental differences would most definitely violate the fourteenth amendment. However, to group ‘the disabled’ into one lump sum of people is not the most effective way to integrate our society into what we like to claim is a land of equal opportunity where anyone can prosper. There are several people that by definition have a disability and function perfectly well if not better than non-disabled persons. The best example of this is Stephen Hawking, who manages to accomplish more in half his lifetime than most could in two lifetimes. He may be the exception to the norm, however, concrete proof that accommodations are not charity and that utilizing resources is not at all demeaning.
Independence Day
Leave a comment StandardThe middle of the night brings the urge to write a bit. The holiday weekend is upon us and we celebrate our Independence. The Google search for independent definition yields two results “free from outside control; not depending on another’s authority” and “not depending on another for livelihood or subsistence.”
What we celebrate is not depending on our parent across the pond. How we celebrate was said by John Adams, “pomp and parade, with shows, games, sports, guns, bells, bonfires, and illuminations.” Fireworks went on sale weeks ago, and Monday night large portions of the country will light up the sky or watch as others do.
Some things to think about though…Who do we depend on for imports? Who do we depend on for cheap labor? It seems our once self-sufficient and abundant country is now inter-dependent on the rest of the world. I do not know if that is good or bad, it is just how it seems.
There are 89 other free countries in the world. Each has different laws, languages, religions, and cultures. Jim Jeffries said it well in his latest comedy special, “love beats hate.” Maybe not always, but it takes a lot of energy to hate and retaliate. We teach kids to walk away from bullies, don’t take it personally, and be the bigger person. I worry about the image sent to the next generation when their elders cannot seem to get along.
They say insanity is repeating the same thing over and over expecting different results. How many times have their been wars over religion? How many times have large portions of a population been imprisoned? How much longer do we have to keep repeating history?
History of Homosexuality
Comment 1 Standard
The book, Homosexuality and Civilization, is an in-depth look at homosexuality throughout various cultures and countries in history. Early Greece was rife with allusions to same sex encounters, most famous being the Illiad, which used the term paiderastia, meaning boy love; additionally, many works of art, war, and literature contained references to same-sex attractions. Around the same timeframe, not too far away, the authors of Leviticus, a book in the Old Testament of the Bible, would make history calling same-sex affairs an “abomination” and that they should be killed (Crompton, 2003). The most common reasoning for the anti-homosexual mandate in Leviticus is the concern for procreation at the time. Not as austere as Palestine, but not as drastic as Greece, the Romans maintained a position in which they recognized same sex attraction but did not see it as the deepest personal connection between two people.
The Romans did not consider same-sex relationships particularly beneficial or detrimental. When Christianity began to be prevalent, the Gospels of the Bible refrained from mentioning anything about same-sex relationships and various theories as to why include speculation that Jesus himself may have been attracted to males (Crompton, 2003). Garnering ample knowledge of the history of same sex relationships is important to consider in understanding how America developed into the homophobic society we know it as today. Even individuals who are GLB are often ashamed of mannerisms that may out them. GAT looks at society and takes note of important historical events that help shape our communities. Only by learning and understanding the mistakes of the past can people be expected to make progress and GAT can be utilized to help not just GLB individuals but all LGBTQI people.
Crompton (2003) investigates the lack of evidence behind the myth that Rome and Greece somehow failed as societies because same-sex relationships were tolerated and in some cases celebrated. In the medieval world an interesting clash of values and art was produced. Churchmen would write erotic poetry and then call it satire in order to disassociate themselves. Analysis of poetry, art, and literature of Imperial China has shown an openness to sexuality rejected by the Western part of the world. Same sex relationships were accepted and would continue to be for twenty-four centuries. Unlike Greek ideas of noble and manly same-sex relationships, the Chinese saw male and male relationships as delicate and elegant. The longest stretch of tolerance in human history occurred with the Chinese, until Communism replaced earlier values. Although there is no official law prohibiting same-sex relationships, men are arrested under vague charges. Historical attitudes towards homosexuals in Italy, Spain, France, England, and Japan are also discussed by Crompton (2003). World views are extremely important to consider in multicultural counseling. Together with Gay Affirmative Therapy(GAT), Multicultural Counseling (MCT) can be effectively utilized to further develop cohesiveness and growth in the therapeutic relationship. GAT counseling should follow similar guidelines as MCT in reference to cross-cultural sensitivity and awareness. For instance, a gay male from a strict Vietnamese upbringing would have different concerns to work through than a gay male from California. In GAT a clinician is considerate of the multifaceted dimensions of the individual and exploration of one’s place in society. Personally, I take an eclectic view of counseling and incorporate a modality that is best for the person sitting across from me.
Equality in Solution Focused Brief Therapy
Comment 1 StandardThe way I speak on this blog, I allow my words to flow freely and may say things potentially offensive. This is okay because blogging and therapy are very different creatures. I think the coolest thing that could happen from writing this blog post is that others will begin dialogue in the comments section.
To be able to work with a diverse population and be effective in achieving treatment plan goals is something that many counselors desire. I feel like SFBT will increase my efficacy when working with various populations that have different backgrounds than me.
I have probably come across another single bisexual Hispanic female that was raised in poverty with a mentally ill mother and are now part of the middle class. While others may share my upbringing and lens of the world, the fact is that most people sitting across from me have an entirely different lens through which they see the world. The freedom that SFBT allows is for me to explore the world through each consumer’s lens and each individual’s experiences.
Some of the worst things a counselor can say in my opinion include “get over it,” “I understand,” and “it will get better with time.” Who the hell am I to say with any accuracy that the proverbial ‘it’ will always get better with the passing of time?! With good intentions, clinicians have the ability to enhance potentiation or do serious damage. The most appealing piece of SFBT is it has not been found to cause any harm.
Occasionally I speak before thinking, a good example of that is when I told a coworker that he did not strike me as a “male man,” at which time he informed me he was very much a manly man and did all sorts of manly things like working on cars and watching sports. Can you imagine if I put my foot that far in my mouth in a session with a consumer?! By allowing the consumer to set the language for the session, nothing said will be offensive because I can use their language. I can ask questions with curiosity without saying something potentially indelicate.
“Solutions need not be directly related to the problems they are meant to solve.” -Steve de Shazer