Many people grew up with less than holly jolly holidays. Childhood memories can range from basic family drama to extremely abusive or neglectful situations. Below is a dramatization of a holiday memory that could later lead to Grinch tendencies. Continue reading
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3 Signs of Sharing Too Much with Your Child
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Parents often find themselves spending most their time with their children. Adult time is a rarity and most parents rejoice at the brief moments when they can have a conversation. Some parents feel they cannot make time to talk to another adult and end up pouring their hearts out to their children. Your child is not your friend, therapist, or sounding board. Continue reading
3 Ways Childhood Trauma Can Impact Adult Relationships
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The effects of trauma may continue into adult lives and relationships with others. Trauma survivors often have abandonment issues and do not believe anyone can really be trusted. People sometimes think of themselves as not being worthy of an intimate and compassionate relationship. These beliefs can have an impact on their adult relationships through the rest of their life. Conversely, by recognizing these cognitive distortions, healing can occur. Trauma survivors are not irreparably doomed by their past but they can be affected by their past in ways that may not be apparent. Continue reading
Evolving Into The Solution Focused Brief Therapy Mindset
Leave a comment StandardPrior to meeting anyone in the field, my understanding of Solutioned Focused Brief Therapy was that it is a modality. That’s it. I honestly did not know what to expect. Arriving in Colorado for the SFBT Training with Teri Pichot, I noticed awesome new landscapes that I had never experienced before. My hope for SFBT is that it would be one more tool in my box of therapy knowledge. I thought it was right alongside Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Motivational Interviewing, Dialectical Behavior Therapy, etcetera. I was WRONG. This new type of therapy is much more than just another way of therapy, it is a new way of thinking and approaching consumers.
Most clinicians are taught from a problem solving point of view, this is also true for myself. Learning to focus on solutions instead of problems is proving to be very difficult, but I am confident it is doable. I am currently attending the 2016 Annual SFBT Expo, where I am meeting a multitude of clinicians all with their own experiences of SFBT.
The more I hear, see, and practice the principles of SFBT, the more of a reality I see with consumers. Almost fully licensed, (I just have to submit my hours) I have decided the areas of focus I am interested in include substance abuse, trauma, lgbt issues, prison inmates, and life adjustments such as divorce, moving, work stress, weight loss, etcetera.
I am not yet sure how to fulfill all of my interests while working primarily with chemically dependent consumers, but I am determined and willing to work weekends. My best hopes for the next year is to implement the solution focused mindset effectively with consumers and with myself.
“Problem talk creates problems – Solution talk creates solutions”
Steve de Shazer (1940-2005)
Steve de Shazer (1940-2005)