May!!!

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This month is Mental Health Awareness Month. Small Steps. Big Impact.

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Some days may be more difficult than others. All you can do is make the next best choice. Whatever that is for you. I think we all do the best that we can with the information we have at the time. Sometimes that means only being able to do the bare minimum on activities of daily living and that is okay. In fact, it is okay to not be okay sometimes! I know, shocking right, in a society where one may be expected to work 40+ hours, be present with family, engage in social events, fitness, and keeping the body nourished all without slowing down. Breathe.

Overwhelm can be described as trying to spin too many plates on sticks at once. This month, if overwhelm creeps up, or any emotion gets too intense, I highly recommend feeling it. What does that mean? Experience the sensations in the body that go along with the feeling. For example, when some folks get anxious the stomach can feel like one has butterflies or the chest can seem tight. Noticing these sensations and noticing them shift is processing. To feel it is to heal it I think someone once said. This is different than stewing. Sitting in unnecessary anger is only going to increase one’s internal distress. For anger, it is okay to avoid the person/place/thing that elicited that emotion for at least 30 minutes to reduce the intensity of the emotion before proceeding mindfully. Try not to go more than 24 hours when using avoidance skillfully as that can be a slippery slope into sweeping things under the rug (not advised).

One tip I’ve learned over the years it to picture a light, like you know how a copy machine has the light that scans the document? You can imagine a light scanning your body and you can go head to toe or toe to head, whichever you prefer. This is called a body scan. Notice the sensations and notice they will pass. Emotions are temporary. They will pass. Well, if you choose to feel it. Choose to shove it down, and it may persist for days, weeks, months or even years.

Mental health matters. You matter. Whether you believe it or not. Try taking the next small step that will make a big impact for you, whatever that it.

See below for a pdf that has a day to day by TherapyAppointment of what you can do this month to take small steps that have a big impact.

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Social Media Self-care

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Social media can be an awesome thing. It can also be a source of extreme stress. Studies of shown that social media used in excess can actually decreased self-esteem. Teenagers are often experiencing cyber bullying on various social media sites. They’re also dangers that kids run into with strangers being able to message them on different forums. As adults we can delete or ignore these messages the kids can have trouble differentiating between troll-ish annoyances and taking things personally. Below are three healthy things you can do to keep your sanity in social media interactions.

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Dressing for Success

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The clothes we wear to work often depend on where we are employed. Yoga pants and capris may be okay when you work a gym, but not at a corporate office. Dressing to your profession can improve how you are perceived by coworkers and customers. I hear clothing is just too expensive, but dressing well does not mean you must max out those credit cards. I began cultivating my “grown up” wardrobe in college. I would always check the clearance racks, hit the thrift stores, and raid my friend’s closets when they were purging. Regardless of your profession, there are some good rules of thumb to follow: Continue reading

Save time/money/sanity…Plan your meals!

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Fast food is overly abundant in our society. It is cheap, quick, and easy when you have a house full of impatient and hungry mouths. Cooking for ourselves is a skill that once developed, can benefit many areas of life. Home cooked meals are healthier, tend to be less expensive, and enjoying our creation is a satisfying experience. Here are three steps you can take to start planning your meals: Continue reading

Guilt Free Cancelling for Self-care

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Making friends with family and friends is fun and sometimes impulsive. Here’s an example:

Friend: “Hey do you want to come to a cookout next weekend?”

Response: “Sure, I wouldn’t miss it.”

Thought: ‘Oh no, I already committed to go to the movies with someone else. How can make both happen? I guess I’ll have to skip anytime I thought I would relax and I’ll just wake up extra early to get the laundry going.’ Continue reading

Making time for family/friends – – but not too much!

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Culturally, humans have always formed groups or tribes, not just to function but also for that sense of community. Some may define themselves as “loners,” but even the odd or eccentric find like minded people to integrate into their community. Family and friends are an essential part of our lives and making time for them can sometimes feel impossible. Other times it may feel as though we never get a moment to ourselves. Finding a balance can be tricky but doable.

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3 Steps for Separating from Negative People

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Detaching from unhealthy people can be difficult especially if they are long term friends, family, or a significant other. As for family, they do not have to be cut out of your life to detach from their unhealthy influence over you. You can separate yourself from the drama, they may not like it at first, but being firm about boundaries can allow you to love your family and separate from their negativity. Below are three steps for separating from negative people.

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Guilty Pleasures…Healthy?

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A guilty pleasure is generally something that others see as unusual or weird. These can range from musical tastes to food or collections. Just because your indulgence may be unique to you does not mean it is unhealthy. Over indulgence might lead to unhealthy habits in some cases if not used in moderation. Here are some common guilty pleasures, some may seem normal to you and others totally off the wall. For all of them, we do not need to be ashamed: Continue reading